How can retailers take the stress out of giving and getting feedback?
A new university study finds that, while high-empathy leaders tend to be better at giving negative feedback in a helpful manner, they become more distressed, inattentive and less effective at their jobs afterwards.
In a penned article in Harvard Business Review, the researchers led by Ravi Gajendran, Florida International University’s chair of the global leadership and management department, wrote, “Since being more empathetic essentially makes leaders more likely to ‘catch’ others’ emotions, a strong negative emotional reaction from the recipients could spill over onto the high-empathy leaders, affecting their own emotional states and thus their performance.”
Their basic advice for such leaders is to set aside some recovery time.
Less empathetic leaders, conversely, are less likely to take their employees’ perspectives. They are often energized by giving negative feedback and thereby incentivized to do more. Coaching lower-empathy leaders to be more compassionate was recommended.
Feedback is crucial for developing employees and improving their performance but remains inherently stressful for both the giver and receiver. Provoking strong emotions and often defensiveness, the stress involved in receiving feedback can make the situation counterproductive and may even cause a decrease in performance.
An often-quoted 2017 survey from Zenger/Folkman, a strengths-based leadership development firm, found 44 percent of managers agreeing that negative feedback was stressful or difficult. Twenty one percent avoided giving negative feedback. Surprisingly, 37 percent admitted that they avoided giving positive feedback.
Feedback often likewise fails to inspire employees. A recent Gallup survey found that only 26 percent of employees strongly agree that the feedback they get actually improves their work.
Among the tips for delivering feedback to employees is to make it a frequent event so that the annual review, if necessary, offers no surprises. Being timely, sincere, specific and giving positive feedback first are other common suggestions.
Writing for Psychology Today, Mira Brancu, who heads a leadership and team development consulting company, said reactions to feedback often depend on two factors: the receiver’s relationship with the person giving the feedback and differences in perspective.
Her core advice, “Approach with a curious mindset, first asking questions and seeking to understand.”
- Giving Negative Feedback Can Make Empathetic Leaders Less Effective – Harvard Business Review
- Why Do So Many Managers Avoid Giving Praise? – Harvard Business Review
- Annual reviews can be fraught. Here are tips to help you prep – The Seattle Times
- Tips for Delivering Feedback More Effectively at Work – The Balance Careers
- Five Strategies for Giving Better Feedback – Psychology Today
- Why the C-suite Embraces Empathy as a Key Leadership Approach – WWD
DISCUSSION QUESTIONS: What tips would you offer for delivering as well as receiving feedback? Why do you think the feedback process is often so nerve-racking for both sides?
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Co-Founder & Partner, Ascendant Loyalty
The manager must first understand company policy on how feedback is to be provided and at what depth. It is important to avoid creating stress, prepare in advance, and demonstrate that this is an important dialogue. The manager must invest in understanding the employee’s own unique goals and expectations plus how willing they are to receive feedback. In turn, the process can yield positive results and be less stressful.
Principal and Founder, Retail Strategy Group
Many store managers do a great job regarding receiving general feedback but many lack the training rooted in empathy.
Many employees feel they may be reprimanded for giving negative feedback and this instills fear. Honest feedback is hard to get.
The stress of the shop floor today is nothing like we’ve ever experienced. Planning for the right resources, unexpected staff shortages due to COVID-19 exposure, and stocking shelves as well as new duties from a fulfillment perspective have increased stress levels for management as well as frontline store staff. Retraining rooted in empathy is a necessity.
President, Protonik
So often the environment around feedback is blame oriented. So often, the feedback attacks personal abilities or weaknesses.
Feedback needs to be focused on an assumption that everyone wants the same thing – to do the right thing for the customer and company. When we do that, it removes the blame and personal in order to focus on achieving a shared goal.
Unfortunately, most formal feedback mechanisms are not structured this way – but carry the implication of “someone screwed up” rather than “what makes things better.”
Managing Partner Cambridge Retail Advisors
Founding Partner, Merchandising Metrics
It’s interesting that the article starts out by calling it “negative” feedback. How about “constructive” feedback? Giving and getting feedback is never going to be a stress free process. But timeliness can go a long way in softening the process for everybody. Talk sooner than later. Don’t wait for formal reviews. Talk in real time. Coaches don’t wait for the game to be over to challenge performance. It’s in the moment. And continuous. Fine tuning along the way is far more productive than waiting and trying to make big course corrections on down the line.
President, SSR Retail LLC
Negative feedback is an opportunity for learning and to strengthen trust if handled correctly. This is an area in which virtually every retailer could spend more time training managers.
Merchant Director
A lot of employees feel they can’t give honest feedback for fear of retribution.
Companies say they want open feedback and communication, but most have not done a good job at letting employees know they will not get singled out for being honest. It’s a rather delicate slope and hard to manage unless you have the company’s 1000 percent commitment on it.
Content Marketing Strategist
Framing feedback as enriching growth opportunities for workers and companies could reduce the drama. Position it as a mutually-beneficial conversation rather than a threatening Judgment Day.
When delivering feedback:
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When receiving feedback:
Compassion for both sides can help. After two years of non-stop turbulence, everyone is trying to do their best and growth takes time.
Vice President, Research at IDC
Negative feedback for most employees is synonymous with failure and subsequently fear. For retailers, using feedback as a learning tool is not only stressful, but also much less valuable due to high turnover rates, part-time, and seasonal workers. Not hitting your pick and pack quota numbers for the day typically has monetary disincentives – including termination for many retailers. These are not learning environments nor is failure tolerated. Store managers need to shift thinking to problem solving and allow for flexibility and in turn accept some inefficiency of their employees to cultivate “safe” environments for employees to engage and grow.